I have two whole memories of my mom. They both were at a very young age, as my mom went away when I was only 4 years old. The first memory I have was being in my mom’s arms walking up to our front door of the first house I lived in with both my parents. It’s a very brief memory, but it’s very special because it was a memory of my mom. The second memory is a memory of us sitting in the … [Read more...] about How early childhood memories can make you better parents
I don’t know about you, but in my experience, whenever the topic of divorce comes up, no one ever talks about divorce being complex. But divorce is complex and multi-faceted. Most of us think of divorce as a one-time event, but actually, divorce is really a process. And a series of events within that process. Or you can think of it as consisting of different phases, and for this reason … [Read more...] about What makes divorce so complex?
Almost every week for several years now, I have worked with kids whose parents are in the process of divorce. These kids come from many different types of homes and backgrounds. I myself was once that child. Although the circumstances for every child is different, one thing we all have in common is that our parents went from being married to being divorced. Where my story began… I still … [Read more...] about Talking to your kids honestly about divorce
Ok, so I’m not going to sugarcoat it. Because, honestly, that’s not helpful to you. What you need is the truth, the cold, hard facts and then some encouragement…and maybe some chocolate or a glass of wine… Divorce is stressful. Actually, divorce is REALLY stressful. In fact, you know this to be true. It’s stressful because it’s life changing and because it’s complex. It’s going to mean … [Read more...] about Divorce is Stressful. Protect your Kids
Ever wonder? Ever wondered what it would be like if kids could run the court system for a day? A day where they get to make the decisions and advocate on their own behalf. Ever wondered what they might ask for if they were appointed to be a divorce court judge for a day? Let’s just imagine that they could sit down and write out a Bill of Rights regarding their parents’ divorce. It … [Read more...] about If kids could be in charge of court for a day: Children’s Bill of Rights
It was another cold and rainy morning. Stacy woke up at dawn, shivering slightly, and saw that her significant other of almost 8 years, was already up and most likely out the door headed to work. She rolled over, grabbed her phone off the nightstand, and looked through her notifications. There were the usual: emails, several Facebook likes, a text from her mother, and an inspirational … [Read more...] about This marriage sucks. Is it time to get a divorce?