One of the topics that comes up frequently for a counselor who works with divorce cases is the issue of going to court. The battle over custody Protecting your child is one of the most important roles you have as a parent. In fact, protecting our kids comes instinctively to us as parents. When you are coming out of a relationship with your ex, you are usually feeling vulnerable. Perhaps this … [Read more...] about This is why your child’s counselor should not go to court
Have you ever noticed that someone you knew and respected as a sane person on most days, becomes like a crazy person when they’re going through a divorce? Why does going through a divorce make people so crazy? Being rejected by someone who was once most likely the love of your life is probably one of the most painful things we can experience in life. A reason for this can be found in … [Read more...] about Why does divorce make us so crazy?
One of the more difficult aspects of relationships is trying to blend different personalities. While we all have aspects of our personality that may be less than flattering, mental health professionals distinguish between personality quirks and personality "disorders." The word disorder sounds so disturbing. But even in the realm of personality disorders, they fall on a continuum, anywhere from … [Read more...] about How to Protect Kids from Narcissistic Parents
There is no doubt that divorce causes chaos in our otherwise normally structured lives. It's inevitable and unavoidable to some degree. BUT, I have a suggestion and a solution that will help to minimize some of that chaos. Create a detailed parenting plan So what goes into a parenting plan? you might ask. That's a great question! I answer that in my FREE detailed Parenting Plan Guide … [Read more...] about What parents need to know about a post-divorce parenting plan
It was a Monday morning, the start of the work week. I was deep in thought working on the usual paperwork. My voicemail notification brought me back to earth, and I clicked on it to listen to the message. It was a message from a tired sounding mom who requested that I call her back. I was able to chat with her later that day and she explained tearfully, that she was worried about her … [Read more...] about How to calm your child’s worries when visiting daddy
Hearing THE NEWS about divorce “One day I came home from school. I heard my mom and dad talking and I heard my mom say, ‘do you love me?’ My dad said ‘no’ and then after that he moved out.” – 10 year old girl “I noticed that my mom and dad weren’t sleeping in the same room anymore. No one said anything to me. Then my mom told me that they were getting a divorce. I wasn’t sure what that meant.” … [Read more...] about What kids really need to know about your divorce